Hot
wax, in sex play is used to increase Adrenalin and thus
arousal. Make sure your submissive is not wearing any oil basic lotions / perfume. I
personally like a fire extinguisher close by, a tipped over candle could start a
fire really fast. An out of control fire and submissive tied down is never a
good thing. Use
plain 100% paraffin candles, these burn at a safer temperature for hot wax play.
Remember, color does affect the temperature at which candles melt. Red candles
tend to drip hotter than black or white. The way I tell people to think about
is, its like wearing a shirt on beach, the darker color the hotter the wax. If the submissive is very hairy, have them shaved or place saran wrap over them for easy removal, or try using wax that will not stick to the hair. You may also choose to restrain the bottom/submissive. Restraints are a good idea if candles are placed to where the bottom/submissive can accidentally knock them over. A waxing scene like the pictures on the previous page can take up to 90 minutes or longer. At some point the submissive will need to move a little. The dragon and phoenix shield waxing took over 3 hours each, so make sure you submissive will be comfortable for the long term, and make sure they pee before. Also drinks with bendable straws are nice ( if you want to be nice ) Make sure you have fire extinguisher and/or wet blanket for safety issue and burn ointment. Watch out for pudding in low area like belly buttons ( if they are "inney" ) , This can make heat to concentrated, what I normally do is purposely pour a little wax into belly button and keep adding a little after it sets up. This will basically "fill" the area so it can't puddle up there. Plus you can pull it out afterwards and show them mold of there belly button, the mold idea also for the pussy if you do it thick enough. I love to pull it off and show it to them and say " See what you pussy looks like "
This is information on color from a submissive I have waxed: The only one, I have been able to notice a difference in is fluorescent yellow. To me fluorescent yellow feels cold. Talking to some other submissives, I was informed they were more sensitive to other colors. Go for a steady series of drops. Rotate the candles around while dripping so it burns evenly or a smooth pour from the larger candles. Constantly, drip the wax at various heights and different areas. Different areas of the body may not be able to tolerate as much as other areas i.e. private sensitive areas. With someone who I have not played with before or has never tried wax, I sometime will tap on body where I'm about to drip the wax at start and as the scene gets more into it, fade that away. This allowed the submissive to focus where to expect the wax and as she starts getting into sub space you fade the tapping away. Make various designs. Use your
imagination. (see below waxing 301) For males, the thighs, cock and balls are especially sensitive. You can make a "penis mold" by totally coating the area. One trick I heard was nice was to encase the penis soft in wax and then get him hard and have him "break threw" the wax shell. I love to pour a small amount on to my hand and then rub it on the submissive, like massaging the breast with warm wax or other areas Ice is another good thing to add.. a little fire and ice. One idea is take the ice in your hand and let it melt and drip on to the submissive.. they feel something hit their skin and they are expecting heat and their mind goes noooo wait a minute … it's a very nice mind fuck . Another idea is to take a piece of ice and wax it on to the body or cut a little piece of the wax and slide it into the hole. Then when it melts they get a rush of cold water and its a lot like the votives, another fun thing to do is to put a piece of ice next to a votive, the submissive will never know what they are going to get fire or ice !!!!! If you have a hairy submissive .. hairy chest or hairy private area and don't wish to use my wax that does not stick to hair. You can wrap your submissive in saran wrap to keep the wax from sticking to hair or is you want to be really sadist, let the wax stick to the hair and removal will be a lot of pain. NEVER USE oils i.e. baby oil on submissive before hand. I have seen others do this in my option this is like coating your submissive in cooking oil before throwing them in the oven.
Temporary Branding with wax! Votives If you intend to use votives, allow some of the wax to pool in one of the candles. Pour enough wax to hold the votives in place. Place the votives on and hold until the wax sets. As the votives melt, the spilling will add to the sensation. The votives hold the wax until towards the end of the scene, and then can overflow in a rush of warm sensation. Or you can shake the submissive a little and make it flow out or tickle her and watch her try and not to move. (make sure the votives are attached VERY well if your going to try this ) The submissive is now in a higher headspace and tolerance level. Also, it helps convincing the submissive to remain still unless they want a lot of wax poured on at once. Check the votives throughout the scene to make sure they have not burned down too far, as the wax softens make sure the wick does not fall over. Jar
Candles I have found some submissive hate the feel of wax dripping on them. They like feeling of warm wax but there something about the dripping. One thing you can try is get a cheap paint brush and dip the brush in wax and paint it on the submissive they get feel of warm brush on there skin. This works well for crock pots and jar candles. Jars are nice you can get a lot of wax in a little time. You can pour it on slowly or cover them with a large amount at one time. Which is what I like to do once the submissive is flying and maybe thin coat is already covering the area, splash a large amount on the genital area. BDSMwaxplay jar candles DOES NOT STICK TO HAIR , so this is good for hairy male submissive or female that does not shave down below. Crock
Pots Do not put the wax right into the crock pot, put into metal pitcher, metal coffee can, anything that will make it like a double boiler. Once the wax is at just above its melting point, you can use all types of fun stuff to get the wax on the submissive from a coffee cup, turkey baster, spoon, paint brush (don't use anything that you will want to use later ) also you can pour it into cup .. let it cool a little more before pouring or brushing it on the submissive. Art Wax
and Designs ( Waxing 301 ) Wax
Removal From Moneypenny: Master loves to remove the wax very slowly after it has cooled down a little. I think he does it to torture me. If you are into knife play, this is a good time to do it. You can remove the wax mold intact and keep it as a souvenir. After removing the majority of the wax, try using a knife to scrape the wax off or rubbing with baby oil. The skin is very sensitive once the wax is removed. If you have wand with body pad, you can added a little electricity with wax removal. DO NOT worry about sparks lighting the left over oil that was in the wax. This can not happen the flash point of wax oil is not low enough for sparks to light. If you have any questions or
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